Audrey P
So...me and my boyfriend have been of and on for about...5 and a half months, and we're really happy with each other. The first time me and him broke up, we saw different people and I thought I got pregnant by the other guy. Turns out I didn't, and I was devastated. Now, I am only 16 and wishing I had a baby. The main reasons are because I like babies, I love the attention from being pregnant, and I want a baby sooo bad. Please don't tell me, "It's too much for your age." I have that part handled...thanks. Now, I have asked my boyfriend to give me a baby...of course he said no. And I said, we could live with my mom who has money, a house, and a job with no children living with her. But he still refused. And I don't know how else to tell him...I really miss the feeling of "thinking" I was a mom and I don't know what to do now...and I will NOT trick my boyfriend by telling him I took my birth control when I didn't. Please help.... :(
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I am 17 years old. I tried to conceive when I was 16, and now have a beautiful 10 month old daughter. HOWEVER, I got implanon and the doctor didn't insert it correctly and now we're pregnant again! Girl, it's not all it's cracked up to be! Trust me, it's your motherly instincts kicking in. If you follow through with it, you will resent the father of your baby. You don't have a life, you live your baby's life. You HAVE to work. Most of your friends WILL abandon you. At first they'll visit you in the hospital, then like a puppy, it gets old and the excitement wears off. Get a new puppy or something and be maternal over it. The feeling never goes away. With my baby and new pregnancy, I am thinking of getting us a dog for safety reasons and my maternal instincts. You will probably need government assisting. Just because your mom has money, etc etc DOES NOT mean she'll help. My dad makes 10k A MONTH because he owns his own business. He doesn't help me do squat. AT ALL and I'm still legally his responsibility. There was a girl in SC (or NC, don't know, don't care) who found being a mother at 16 was too much, stabbed her baby, and put it in her closet. It's not something for teenagers. I don't regret my decision because that's like saying I regret my daughter, BUT I do wish I would have waited, and her dad is a complete dead beat so that doesn't help. Your boyfriend is actually very smart.
You want a baby. You want to wake up soooo many times at night, that you get delirious and you fall asleep holding the bottle in your baby's mouth. Or changing your baby in the middle of the night, and their tummy hurts and they squirt poop all over the changing table, crib, and the wall, and all you do is cry. Its also SUPER awesome to need help from the government. Which reminds me, attention from being pregnant? About 75% of the attention I got was NEGATIVE. And after having my baby, having my vagina stitched up, I needed help at a store getting a different size bra so I didn't have to walk across the damn store again, and the lady told me they weren't allowed to do that after I heard her do it for someone else 3 times. The same person...WHILE my 3 week old was screaming her head off.
Babies are not puppies. Or pets. They're HUMANS and last a lifetime! A LIFETIME! How many friends do you have that you've been friends with forever? Like honestly. ME? none.
Try working, go get a job if you don't have one. Work all the time. Who will watch your baby? Deal with rude people just to make money for you and your baby. I don't make enough money...We both have government health insurance, I pay my own car insurance, and buy diapers and not only that, I turn 18 in a week and am going to get section 8 and food stamps JUST so I can get away from her terrible father. That's with FREE childcare. I barely get by. I don't have a phone. I don't have a computer. (I'm on my sister's while she's at camp.) I don't know how I'll survive college.
After you have a baby, you have a never ending period, or so it seems. You bleed HEAVILY for 5-6 weeks. Thats only a vaginal delivery...C-sections are absolutely horrible. Then you get stretch marks - cocoa butter does NOT work, stretch marks are part of your dermis genetics. Pregnancy messes up your body so bad.
What are you going to do when (and trust me, it happens to EVERYONE) you're out in public and your baby is in a cute little outfit and he or she poops up their back and YOU have to clean it? No one helps you with that. No one wants to. YOU are mommy. YOU feed, rock, bathe, etc etc for them. Graduate school. I did before I had my baby and it's the best thing you can do. Go to college. Get a stable life. You have only 3 years left of being a teenager...after that you have a lifetime to have a baby. I promise. This is coming from the bottom of my heart, someone who WAS you, but my boyfriend at the time was too big of an idiot to say no to me. If you follow through, you'll be in a similar situation to mine in a year or two, talking to someone who sounds completely ignorant on yahoo answers. I promise you.
This is REAL LIFE, not an MTV show. It is SO HARD, it's nothing like I expected. You'll find out whether you have a baby now...or later.
I am 17 years old. I tried to conceive when I was 16, and now have a beautiful 10 month old daughter. HOWEVER, I got implanon and the doctor didn't insert it correctly and now we're pregnant again! Girl, it's not all it's cracked up to be! Trust me, it's your motherly instincts kicking in. If you follow through with it, you will resent the father of your baby. You don't have a life, you live your baby's life. You HAVE to work. Most of your friends WILL abandon you. At first they'll visit you in the hospital, then like a puppy, it gets old and the excitement wears off. Get a new puppy or something and be maternal over it. The feeling never goes away. With my baby and new pregnancy, I am thinking of getting us a dog for safety reasons and my maternal instincts. You will probably need government assisting. Just because your mom has money, etc etc DOES NOT mean she'll help. My dad makes 10k A MONTH because he owns his own business. He doesn't help me do squat. AT ALL and I'm still legally his responsibility. There was a girl in SC (or NC, don't know, don't care) who found being a mother at 16 was too much, stabbed her baby, and put it in her closet. It's not something for teenagers. I don't regret my decision because that's like saying I regret my daughter, BUT I do wish I would have waited, and her dad is a complete dead beat so that doesn't help. Your boyfriend is actually very smart.
You want a baby. You want to wake up soooo many times at night, that you get delirious and you fall asleep holding the bottle in your baby's mouth. Or changing your baby in the middle of the night, and their tummy hurts and they squirt poop all over the changing table, crib, and the wall, and all you do is cry. Its also SUPER awesome to need help from the government. Which reminds me, attention from being pregnant? About 75% of the attention I got was NEGATIVE. And after having my baby, having my vagina stitched up, I needed help at a store getting a different size bra so I didn't have to walk across the damn store again, and the lady told me they weren't allowed to do that after I heard her do it for someone else 3 times. The same person...WHILE my 3 week old was screaming her head off.
Babies are not puppies. Or pets. They're HUMANS and last a lifetime! A LIFETIME! How many friends do you have that you've been friends with forever? Like honestly. ME? none.
Try working, go get a job if you don't have one. Work all the time. Who will watch your baby? Deal with rude people just to make money for you and your baby. I don't make enough money...We both have government health insurance, I pay my own car insurance, and buy diapers and not only that, I turn 18 in a week and am going to get section 8 and food stamps JUST so I can get away from her terrible father. That's with FREE childcare. I barely get by. I don't have a phone. I don't have a computer. (I'm on my sister's while she's at camp.) I don't know how I'll survive college.
After you have a baby, you have a never ending period, or so it seems. You bleed HEAVILY for 5-6 weeks. Thats only a vaginal delivery...C-sections are absolutely horrible. Then you get stretch marks - cocoa butter does NOT work, stretch marks are part of your dermis genetics. Pregnancy messes up your body so bad.
What are you going to do when (and trust me, it happens to EVERYONE) you're out in public and your baby is in a cute little outfit and he or she poops up their back and YOU have to clean it? No one helps you with that. No one wants to. YOU are mommy. YOU feed, rock, bathe, etc etc for them. Graduate school. I did before I had my baby and it's the best thing you can do. Go to college. Get a stable life. You have only 3 years left of being a teenager...after that you have a lifetime to have a baby. I promise. This is coming from the bottom of my heart, someone who WAS you, but my boyfriend at the time was too big of an idiot to say no to me. If you follow through, you'll be in a similar situation to mine in a year or two, talking to someone who sounds completely ignorant on yahoo answers. I promise you.
This is REAL LIFE, not an MTV show. It is SO HARD, it's nothing like I expected. You'll find out whether you have a baby now...or later.
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